Sorry, this one is for the ladies only.
Ever had a really frank conversation with your girlfriends that are married or wonder sometimes why you seem to be the only one that hasn’t found true love or at least someone interesting enough to share your life? Or maybe you found him only to realize after far too long that he “just wasn’t there”?
In the 1960s fewer than 8% of women who married were older than 30, but today over 30% of women getting married are past their thirtieth birthday. Also, women who are college graduates are now as likely to marry as their less educated peers, and they are less likely to get divorced.
This all seems like good news.
So, why are you still single? There is a high likelihood you just haven’t found “the one”. But, there is an equally strong likelihood that you don’t really know where to look or how to spot him when he is there.
If you can finagle the truth out of your smart, successful girlfriends who have actually walked down the aisle, many will say that it wasn’t an accident they found the partner of their dreams. They worked at it. The learned about themselves and what would be sustainable for them once the rush of chemistry faded. They put themselves out there to meet the type of men that would be open to a relationship and have a good likelihood of sharing their values.
And, perhaps most importantly, unless it happened in their early 20s, they likely did it leveraging the same smarts that helped them get ahead in their careers.
They learned about the natural polarity between men and women and how to navigate this in a way that allows them to dominate at work but still enjoy that electric energy that dances between men and women at home.
Still single in your 30s? Congratulations, that is actually an awesome opportunity to get it right. The likelihood of divorce drops 10% if you get married after age 25.
Already in your 30s? Even better.
You know yourself well, you are secure in your ability to take care of yourself financially, and you can start seeking the right partner from a place of abundance. But, you could likely still use help to get it right.
I have had so many conversations with girlfriends over the years about men. We listen to each other, share stories, give advice, but do we really know what we’re talking about? Are we experts in finding love or deconstructing men? Of course not, so why are we always looking to each other rather than to someone more experienced for expertise that can help us navigate through what is arguably one of the most important decisions we will ever make in life.
I finally came to the realization that we work so hard in our professional lives to learn how to improve our careers and performance, but when it comes to matters of the heart we often assume it “will just happen.”
Evan Marc Katz
I had the good fortune to meet Evan Marc Katz at an event this summer with top coaches from around the country and was just blown away with the quality of insight and advice he was able to give, even over a brief conversation.
Yes, he is a man, but he has spent countless hours researching, studying, working with and deconstructing women, especially smart successful women, to understand the key things that many of us get wrong in dating.
There is a reason he is considered America’s top dating coach for smart, strong, successful women. He brings a perspective that acknowledges all the things that make you great in your career and life generally but can sometimes present more of a challenge in finding the right relationship for the long haul.
Evan can be provocative at times, but it is because he gets real with the statistics. He first wants you to acknowledge with a clear lens what it is you’re looking for and how this aligns with the realistic options out there. Armed with that information, you can start to make smarter decisions about love.
Not meeting enough qualified men? Find new ways to get yourself out there into the right circles. Keep dating the type of man who turns out to be unavailable or unable to meet your needs? Get a better sense of how to figure this out early on and to give a chance to the type of men who will.
I was so taken with Evan’s expertise, we decided to create a 14-day boot camp to showcase the very best of his expertise to help you shake up your dating experience and arm you with the key tips that can help make a big difference in your romantic life and give you a better shot at finding “the one – for you”.
Over the course of 14 days, we’ll deliver you a daily video, reflection and challenge designed to help uncover helpful insights about yourself, your needs and men. With one key message per day and practical ways to put it into action, you’ll be on your way to better dating habits just in time for Spring.
Join our Valentine’s Day Boot Camp. See why Evan is considered America’s top dating coach for smart, strong, successful women. Hurry, it starts Friday!
Maybe you’re set. But is there is a friend who needs to seize control of their love life? We’d love to welcome them into the popexpert community.
Empower them to find the one.
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