Name: Kathryn Foley
Expertise: Eating Psychology, specifically emotional eating
What inspires you to teach/coach people? Emotions inspire me, and the breadth and variety of Human Emotional Experience. I found that for most of my life I kept things within a certain bandwidth, and letting go of those boundaries and letting myself feel was profoundly healing for me. I love to write my own stuff, and I really love to work with clients and hear how their lives unfold when it comes to emotions.
When I work with clients, I always remember this one buddhist lesson I love: it says that I can use my finger to point out the moon, but my finger is not the moon, and you don’t need my finger to see the moon. I don’t teach or coach because I have a “way” that works; I coach because there’s no wrong way to have a body and there’s no wrong way to live your life, and I’m committed to reminding people of their innate wholeness. It matters to me that there be a safe place on the internet or in real life where people can come and just _be_. The wisdom, the grace, is available to everyone.
My other big motivator to coach is that I would love for people to stop counting themselves out. I see so many people both with my health coaching business and at the gym I own who convince themselves that they are “wrong.” Wrong because of their behavior, habits, symptoms, wrong because of age, or their fitness ability, wrong because of their gender or their background. One of the biggest soul lessons I think we need to learn while we’re alive is how to show up for ourselves. How to deal ourselves into the game and truly decide with awareness and courage the life we want to create for ourselves.
Who was one of your most influential mentors and what’s one of the most important lessons you learned from them? This question is harder for me to answer than I expected it to be. I have a friend named Jacob, and I’m not exactly sure how we met, but it was in college. Most of the time we spent together was spent as workout buddies, but he was a little further along the path of mental health than I was, and I’ll never forget walking across the gym parking lot with him, trying to explain this hard thing that was going on in my life, and I just kept trying to rationalize it and logic it out. He took me by the shoulders and told me, with absolute sincerity and wholeheartedness, that the fact that I was bothered by this situation was reason enough; I did not need to prove the validity of my hard stuff. That’s the first time I ever really integrated that message, and I’ve never forgotten what it meant to me to hear that.
What’s one piece of advice you would give to someone just starting out in your field? Plan to get a coach of your own eventually. I see a therapist, I’m in a business course to help me build my business, and I keep in regular contact with other health coaches I studied with. I know you’re good at your topic, but that may not translate to building and maintaining a business. Ain’t no shame in that game. Get help.
If you could pick one person to spend an hour learning from (they could be anywhere in the world) who would you pick? So many people. The name that comes up for me time and time again is Neil DeGrasse Tyson, Philosopher Scientist. I can’t get enough of him, and it stirs my soul to hear (or read, as is more often the case for me) his thoughts on science and the Universe.
What are the benefits of meeting clients over live video? I think it changes the dynamic of the conversation. Listening is so much more than just the words I hear; it’s the tone, voice inflection, body language, looking to see if the words match what someone is truly trying to say. It’s easier for me to relax into my intuition when I can use many senses to be with someone, and I think my advice is better.
And I’m sure we’ve all had that english teacher that made us take off our hats in class because “they eyes are the windows of the soul,” but it’s true. Seeing someone’s eyes, letting yourself be seen, is profoundly healing and valuable. It’s a different level of intimacy.
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